According to my German teacher from 10th grade, you can explain and analyze everything with the help of Sigmund Freud’s theories. So to vindicate my following complain I take good, dear, old Freud as a helper.
Men can’t show emotions and stand up to them and women still believe in fairy tales and Mr. Right!
According to Freud, all uncomfortable emotions or feelings are hidden in the unconscious (the part we don’t have access to). The ‘id’ is the source which feed the unconsciousness. It’s build of two biological forces: sex and thanatos( death or destruction instinct).
Ergo all suppressed feelings are based on the id! Everything related to these two forces which seem uncomfortable is buried deep down. Because feelings are often considered as weakness, hurtful or uncontrollable, men are afraid off them and conceal them down in the unconsciousness. They construct the foundations, the invisible roots, which will steer their behavior, like running away.
The Preconscious is the part which is not actively used. The information stored in this part are known, so that they’re accessible, but most times to uncomfortable, so they’re better hidden under the surface. The water around the iceberg represents everything that we’re not aware of or haven’t experienced yet. It’s also called the nonconscious. Consequently if a woman wants a man to show his feelings, she should assume that this is unknown territory for him and introduce him slowly.
So why is love so difficult to find in today’s society and why is communication between gender even tougher? Why do we need to show a superficial indifference towards it and create a psychical mess?
If we would open our eyes, we would eventually realize that we’re surrounded by love. LOVE sells as well as sex, and violence. Movies, shows, literature analyze these points in every variation and because it’s such a seller, it all climaxes in Valentine’s Day to boost the economy.
All in all humans care too much about other’s opinion, stereotypes and put themselves under pressure to fulfill a certain stigma or expectations. If we want to give these simple four letters profounder meaning than roses on Valentine’s Day, then we should be brave enough, to tear down our walls, dig up our feelings and face reality without the help of alcohol.